The Offer Call/Email for Girlish

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

I was sitting on the cabin porch when I got The Call, which in my case, was not actually a call but an email—Thank God, because I hate talking on the phone and the cabin has really bad cell service. (The plastic sheeting pictured here was down when I actually got the email, because it was summer. However, today it is not anything close to summer so the plastic is…


My Electronic Co-Worker Has My Back…Usually

My calendar reassures me that I have everything under control.  It sends me electronic nudges that make me a better mother (NO CHESS CLUB TODAY), better friend (FRANCINE’S BIRTHDAY), and better writer (SUBMISSIONS OPEN FOR_____MAGAZINE). I have a shared calendar with my ex-husband to manage the children’s’ overly-full schedule (RED), another shared calendar for the Debutante Ball (PURPLE), holidays and other things Google has decided I need to know about…

Tuesday, March 6, 2018

The Edit Letter and Other Obsessions

Tuesday, February 27, 2018

I spent months dreading my edit letter. One thing I excel at in particular is imagining the worst possible outcome in any situation, and then obsessing over it at two in the morning.  You may think two o’clock is an inconvenient time to obsess over edit letters and other things, but I’m here to tell you that is a very fine time indeed. First of all, no one else is…


Interview with Rae Theodore + Giveaway for LEAVING NORMAL: ADVENTURES IN GENDER

Saturday, February 24, 2018

Rae Theodore and I both attended HippoCamp17, Hippocampus Magazine’s annual Creative Nonfiction Conference, where Rae led a session called Finding Your Tribe, or How a Writing Group Saved My Life.  I’ve really enjoyed getting to know Rae in the months after the conference. Leaving Normal: Adventures in Gender is a beautifully wrought memoir, and I’m excited to have Rae on the Ball this week. She is truly a gifted writer and…


My Support System Has a Few Unexpected Characters…

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

My support system is made up of people from several different categories. Other Writers: As a memoirist, my writing process has involved a lot of painful revisiting of unhappy memories combined with absolute terror over people actually reading it. Luckily, there is a wonderful Facebook Binders group of women memoirists that is filled with other women on the same journey.  There is always someone around to vent to, or to…


It’s The Launching of The Queen of Hearts!

Tuesday, February 13, 2018

It is the launch week for first of the 2018 Debs to debut—Kimmery Martin with THE QUEEN OF HEARTS! THE QUEEN OF HEARTS had me at hello, which in this case, was the gorgeous cover. Really, what could be more perfect than an anatomical heart formed out of flowers against a gorgeous robin’s egg blue?   Do you remember all those quizzes based on female friendships, like Are You a Monica,…


6 Ideas for Self-Care with GIFS

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

  Give yourself permission to ignore social media, texts and emails. People who love you will forgive you. If you really fear a manners violation, set up an auto-reply saying, “I’m immersed in revisions/first draft/teaching my cat origami and I’ll get back to you eventually. You matter to me, I promise.”     Buy yourself a pair of comfortable pants that you are willing to be seen in public in….


Interview w/ Shannon Leone Fowler + Giveaway for TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS

Saturday, February 3, 2018

I am excited to introduce our readers to one of my favorite memoirs of 2017, TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS: A MEMOIR OF LOVE AND LOSS.  It’s a heartbreakingly beautiful memoir, and Shannon Leone Fowler, whom I met in a Facebook binders group, is a strong and resilient woman who always has encouraging words for emerging writers.   About TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS: In 2002, Shannon Leone Fowler was a blissful twenty-eight-year-old marine…


Querying and Authors.Me

Tuesday, January 30, 2018

  First of all, when I was shopping Girlish, I went with the “wallpaper the internet with queries” technique. I queried editors and agents and entered emerging writers’ contests—I tried to put my manuscript in front of as many people as humanly possible. One agent I really liked only took submissions through something called, so I checked it out. is basically a dating service for agents, editors, and…


Interview with Erin Judge + Giveaway for VOW OF CELIBACY

Saturday, January 27, 2018

  I’m so excited to host the brilliant and funny Erin Judge on the Debutante Ball this week!   Erin Judge is a comedian, writer, actor, and producer based in Los Angeles. Erin’s debut novel, Vow of Celibacy, won Best Fiction at the Bi Book Awards, and was named a Must-Read Indie Press Book by BookRiot. Erin started out doing stand-up at the best comedy club in the world: the Comedy Studio in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Since…