What struck me, reading Kristina’s book, is how the family members are both connected and disconnected. They know each other well enough to make predictions based on past behavior, but they’re disconnected enough from one another in the present that those predictions are often wrong.
It really hit home for me. I live across the country from my family. Sometimes I don’t hear about crises until they’re halfway over with, and then I sit around and worry for two weeks, only to finally hear that the situation was resolved fifteen minutes after I last spoke to someone about it. (Not that my family is non-stop drama… but as, um, anyone who has ever had ANY family at ALL can attest, there’s always something bubbling.) I know and love my family enough to assume I know what’s going on, but I’m often wrong. So, Mom, Dad, siblings, if you get some extra phone calls this week, thank Kristina!
Kristina’s fictional family is made up of people who are all genuinely sympathetic and likeable characters. In fact, the only people they seem to have trouble getting along with are themselves. They’ve come together for one of those family events that nobody is looking forward to but everyone feels they need to be part of, and as the weekend unfolds, secrets are revealed, minds are changed (or not), decisions are made (or not), and a disconnected group of people who know instinctively that they are undeniably tied together make an effort to get all of their orbits aligned.
It’s messy (the situation, not the writing!). It’s honest. Endings aren’t always tied up with a bow. But in the end, it’s about coming together, for better or worse, and that’s the essence of what family is. Kristina has hit the nail on the head, and I couldn’t be more thrilled for her!
(Kristina, I hope you’re taking a bubble bath with your red wine and some primo chocolates!)
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