Toss the green-eyed monster.

Wednesday, June 17, 2020

It’s so easy to be jealous. To let the green-eyed monster into your mental house, allow it to sit at the kitchen table in your cerebellum and tell you stories about how things could be so much better if your life was just like that person’s over there. And this is especially true if you’re a writer trying to make it in this often-cruel world. After all, things aren’t fair….


Keeping Jealousy on the Outside

Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Between Lisa’s insightful and lovely post yesterday about creating a sisterhood and Karen’s epic piece from December about keeping your eyes on your own paper, I’m not sure I have much to add about dealing with professional jealousy. I’m a competitive and ambitious person by nature, but I’m happy to note that jealousy hasn’t been in my top five or ten challenges in the debut year. I think that’s mostly…


Eyes on your own paper.

Wednesday, December 4, 2019

I can’t remember who told me this first, but here’s the piece of writing advice that changed my life: Eyes on your own paper. I can’t tell you how many careers Comparison and her brother Jealousy have ruined. And they’re vicious. They’ll roll right into your house, take your remote, crack open a soda and put their feet up on your ottoman before you even know what’s happening. They’ll ruin…


Green-Eyed Writer

Friday, June 28, 2019

  Beware of jealousy. It creeps up on a debut writer like that unexpected knife-wielding plot twist that she threw into chapter sixteen just for fun, never considering how it might feel if the knife was suddenly plunged into her sensitive debut heart. Or something like that. When I first noticed that we were going to cover the topic of jealousy this week, I pictured my post being thousands (and…


Feeling Some Envy? Great!! Get to Work.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

  I’m susceptible to a long list of faults, but envy isn’t high on that list. I’ll admit it though, I’m human, and of course that feeling creeps in every once in a while. For instance, when Rockstar Debutante Ball author Jenni announced her second, third, fourth, and twenty-sixth book deals, I had a moment of envy. (Seriously, Jenni, you’re freaking amazing.) The flip side is that Jenni has put…


That Green-Eyed Witch, Invidia

Monday, January 9, 2017

This week the Debs are talking about envy – struggling with it, learning from it.   In ancient Rome, Invidia was the name for the goddess of retribution and envy, whom the Greeks called Nemesis. The ancients described her as a witch with a poison tongue and green eyes with double pupils. The word itself, invidia, comes from the Latin word invidere, or “too look too closely.”  The ancients believed…


Envy, the Vast Literary Cognoscenti, and Me

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Ah, envy. What a complicated topic, especially for writers. And now comes my turn to examine the green eyed monster. First I have to distinguish envy from jealousy (sorry; writers are word nerds).  Envy is when you covet what someone else has. For example, when I go to Book Passage to hear debut novelist Garth Risk Hallberg read from CITY ON FIRE as part of his publisher-funded national book tour and…


How Do I Envy Thee? Let Me Count the Ways…

Careful, dear. Your envy is showing.
Tuesday, January 12, 2016

We’re talking envy this week. Envy is not something I have an issue with. The truth is, I am a highly evolved human being who finds envy a waste of time. I mean, envy isn’t even a worthy enough sin to make it into Dante’s circles of hell; envy lies in purgatory. So I am not envious. But I have this blog post to write about envy. I’ve got to…


Writers, Jealousy and Generosity

Monday, January 11, 2016

Okay, lets just get this out in the open. I am a jealous person. I don’t want to be a jealous person. I consider it one of my worst traits. I try to keep my envy in check, but occasionally it gets the best of me. A couple of years ago I was feeling a bit lost. My year-long novel workshop had ended, and I missed the structure and comfort…


Taming the Hideous Green-Eyed Monster

Thursday, March 19, 2015

It’s been ten years since my stint in Hollywood, and sometimes I still wonder “what if”? What if social media had existed back then? What if I’d tried harder? What if I’d written one more script? What if I’d moved to L.A. to actually make a go of it? Everyone has those moments of envy and competitiveness — it’s what fuels long-running race-to-the-finish shows Survivor, or even those vicarious-living shows…