Remember how we talked about overwhelmed author syndrome last week? Yeah, I’m still stewing in that. I leave for France on Monday for research and I can’t seem to get traction with anything I’ve attempted this week. Lordie, I can barely get this post out. But here we go! My thoughts on rejection are as follows. You can look at it three ways:
THEY DON’T LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU SUCK.
We all go here at some point. It’s inevitable. And the thing is, maybe your writing does need a lot more work. Maybe the premise is weak or overdone or stereotypical. Perhaps your characters are cardboard cutouts and your dialogue is stilted. But here’s the beauty in all of these scenarios: you just need to rework your pages. You need buff up your skills. You aren’t done. THIS IS NOT OVER. Think of yourself as in the apprenticeship phase and keep at it!
THEY’RE STUPID, BECAUSE I SERIOUSLY ROCK.
Heh heh. Right, okay. I’ve been sent a couple of these types of notes from people who have actually paid me to do edits for them, (which I don’t understand, given they’ve reached out to gain understanding as to why they’re being rejected). And I’m not an agent or editor at a big publishing house–I can only imagine the notes they receive. Don’t do this, people. Your crap DOES stink and you DO have to work hard and harder, and harder still, just like the rest of us. This attitude does not endear you to anyone so stop now. (P.S. If you can’t take honest feedback, you should reconsider your life as a writer) Or there’s the flip side…maybe your skills DO rock, but the market is flooded with books just like yours. You can’t change this unfortunate circumstance, so you sit on it while you craft your next masterpiece. By the time that is finished and on submission, you may be able to pull out the other, dust it off, and hook an agent or editor.
RAWR! I HEAR A CALL TO ACTION.
This is another way to handle a rejection, and the way I roll. Granted, I mope a little for a day or so, possibly two, depending on how big the rejection is, but then I THROW DOWN THE GUANTLET. THIS MEANS WAR on my pages. I take the feedback and rework, restrategize, and find a couple of fresh readers. I tackle it like it’s my job. Oh wait, it is. I tackle it like it’s the difference between life and death! Because for me, and for some of us, acting, doing, fighting, learning is how we grow and how we achieve. I bet you can guess which way I challenge you to take your big ugly R’s?
How do you deal with rejection?