Making Friends With Failure

This week we’re talking about failure. Any writer will tell you that this career is filled with it. We all have hundreds of rejections- from publications that don’t want our short stories, from agents who don’t want to represent us, from editors who don’t want to buy our books, from readers who didn’t like our book. Each one feels like a sharp stick to the gut. That flash of adrenaline…

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Winning and Losing and Writing: Kimmery Talks About Failure

Failure is an option here. If things are not failing you are not innovating.—Elon Musk Let’s just stipulate that I’m highly innovative. And yes: I fail. A lot. If you want to be a writer, you must brace yourself for a series of truly ridiculous cosmic bitchslaps. Never has there been an endeavor more fraught with options for failure* than deciding to write a book: you can fail at writing…

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Navigating Failure is Easier Than Navigating Success

Trigger warning: depression, anxiety.   People who have experienced trauma may associate the excitement of success with the same physiological reactions as trauma. They avoid subjecting themselves to excitement-inducing circumstances, which causes them to be almost phobic about success.  Psychology Today  This week’s topic (navigating failure) isn’t hard or scary for me, because I’ve chosen failure for so much of my life. Navigating failure is historically pretty comfortable for me….

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Failing Advantageously

Content Warnings: suicide, self-harm It’s hard to write this post in a week where two high-profile, objectively massively-successful people have killed themselves. And I’m not really going to write about that. I don’t tend to comment on celebrity deaths, whatever the cause. It always feels… I don’t know. Performative, somehow, in a way I feel awkward about. So that’s not what this is about. But we are talking about dealing…

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[News Flash] June 10, 2018

Congratulations to @frenchbarbe, winner of our #DebBallGiveaway of Sue William Silverman’s entire collection!   Thank you so much to yesterday’s guest, Nisha Sharma, author of MY SO-CALLED BOLLYWOOD LIFE! If you missed it, read our interview here. Interview with Nisha Sharma, author of MY SO-CALLED BOLLYWOOD LIFE https://t.co/ErhSxuPfj6 pic.twitter.com/YbY4djkFAO — The Debutante Ball (@DebutanteBall) June 9, 2018   News from the 2018 Debs: Julie Clark is doing an event today in San Diego!…

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Interview with Nisha Sharma, author of MY SO-CALLED BOLLYWOOD LIFE

Nisha Sharma grew up immersed in Bollywood movies, ’80s pop culture, and romance novels, so it is no surprise that her first novel, My So-Called Bollywood Life, features all three. Nisha lives in New Jersey with her cat, Lizzie Bennett, and her dog, Nancey Drew. You can find her online at nisha-sharma.com or on Twitter and Instagram at @nishawrites.             Winnie Mehta was never really…

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Practice Makes Perfect

I felt and hoped for a lot of the same things that the other debs have talked about this week when considering applying to be a Deb. I wanted community and kinship and a small group of people to whom I could turn when publishing got hard. And also, I wanted to commit to a practice. I have always kind of hated blogging, to be honest, but I love writing,…

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The Benefits of Being a Deb

Graphic By: Lara Lillibridge My cohorts have already stolen all my answers for why being a Deb is such a great experience. Ah, the drawbacks for posting on Thursdays or Fridays. But I will push forward nonetheless.   Reasons Why You Want to Apply for the 2019 Deb Class:   -You will push yourself to write every week. Now, in the “discipline” category, I’ve never really struggled. I write every…

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Misguided Fear: Why I Almost Didn’t Join The Debutante Ball

  This week we kick off the search for next year’s crop of featured writers for The Debutante Ball. To celebrate that, we’re each writing about our (almost-complete) year as one of the debs.  I’m not gonna lie: I was afraid of doing this. I’m about as organized as a toddler and I feared my ability to generate a post every week, let alone a post every week that anyone…

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What Lara Lillibridge Got Out Of Being on the Debutante Ball

Last month, the final Deb Class of 2018 book hit the shelves. It was Julie Clark’s debut novel, THE ONES WE CHOOSE. When I finally held Julie’s book in my hands for the first time, I cried. I didn’t cry the first time I saw my own book, but I sure cried over Julie’s book. My fellow Deb’s successes feel just as good as my own—perhaps better, because I don’t…

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