Kimmery’s Total Lack of Self-Care

  It is a tad ironic that we are writing about self-care this week, because in the waning days before I become a published author—LESS THAN ONE WEEK AWAY, Y’ALL—I have morphed into a hygiene-free insomniac. I am rocking the French look when it comes to leg shaving, I’ve worn the same ancient pair of cashmere sweatpants for three days, and I wake up every morning at 3:00 am and…


6 Ideas for Self-Care with GIFS

  Give yourself permission to ignore social media, texts and emails. People who love you will forgive you. If you really fear a manners violation, set up an auto-reply saying, “I’m immersed in revisions/first draft/teaching my cat origami and I’ll get back to you eventually. You matter to me, I promise.”     Buy yourself a pair of comfortable pants that you are willing to be seen in public in….


Self-Care from Poets and Artists

Self-care is not a thing I am great at. High-functioning anxiety means that I have a lot of trouble relaxing, and I feel guilty about it any time I even get close. There’s always something I should be doing, after all. Certainly always something else I could be doing. I try to absorb the good advice out there about self-care, and I try to take heart in inspirational aphorisms, but there’s…

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[News Flash] February 4, 2018

Congratulations to @grobiemum, winner of our #DebBallGiveaway of VOW OF CELIBACY by Erin Judge.   Thank you so much to yesterday’s guest, Shannon Leone Fowler! If you haven’t already, enter the #DebBallGiveaway to win a copy of TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS. You can enter by sharing our post on Facebook and/or retweeting the following tweet:   Interview w/ @shannon_leone + #Giveaway for TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS — The Debutante Ball (@DebutanteBall) February 3, 2018   News…


Interview w/ Shannon Leone Fowler + Giveaway for TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS

I am excited to introduce our readers to one of my favorite memoirs of 2017, TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS: A MEMOIR OF LOVE AND LOSS.  It’s a heartbreakingly beautiful memoir, and Shannon Leone Fowler, whom I met in a Facebook binders group, is a strong and resilient woman who always has encouraging words for emerging writers.   About TRAVELING WITH GHOSTS: In 2002, Shannon Leone Fowler was a blissful twenty-eight-year-old marine…

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The One Big Mistake In Kimmery’s Query

Ah. Query Letters. It is well known that most writers would rather churn out an entire book written in their own blood than write a one-page query letter. Penning this stupid letter might sound simple, but trust me, it’s hard. You are given a measly few paragraphs to sum up your book and yourself, and in these paragraphs you must sound compelling and unique and hooky enough for an agent…


Querying and Authors.Me

  First of all, when I was shopping Girlish, I went with the “wallpaper the internet with queries” technique. I queried editors and agents and entered emerging writers’ contests—I tried to put my manuscript in front of as many people as humanly possible. One agent I really liked only took submissions through something called, so I checked it out. is basically a dating service for agents, editors, and…

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