Navigating Failure is Easier Than Navigating Success

Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Trigger warning: depression, anxiety.   People who have experienced trauma may associate the excitement of success with the same physiological reactions as trauma. They avoid subjecting themselves to excitement-inducing circumstances, which causes them to be almost phobic about success.  Psychology Today  This week’s topic (navigating failure) isn’t hard or scary for me, because I’ve chosen failure for so much of my life. Navigating failure is historically pretty comfortable for me….


Feeling Some Envy? Great!! Get to Work.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

  I’m susceptible to a long list of faults, but envy isn’t high on that list. I’ll admit it though, I’m human, and of course that feeling creeps in every once in a while. For instance, when Rockstar Debutante Ball author Jenni announced her second, third, fourth, and twenty-sixth book deals, I had a moment of envy. (Seriously, Jenni, you’re freaking amazing.) The flip side is that Jenni has put…


Taming the Hideous Green-Eyed Monster

Thursday, March 19, 2015

It’s been ten years since my stint in Hollywood, and sometimes I still wonder “what if”? What if social media had existed back then? What if I’d tried harder? What if I’d written one more script? What if I’d moved to L.A. to actually make a go of it? Everyone has those moments of envy and competitiveness — it’s what fuels long-running race-to-the-finish shows Survivor, or even those vicarious-living shows…


Former Deb Kerry Schafer on the Success Rollercoaster + GIVEAWAY of WAKEWORLD!

Saturday, February 15, 2014

Clap your hands in welcome for former deb, Kerry Schafer. She graced these blog pages last year when her debut novel launched. Now she’s got her second book out in the world and a bunch of wisdom about this crazy publishing world under her belt. Kerry’s fantasy novel, WAKEWORLD, the second of the Books of the Between, was released on January 28th. It is a hybrid of urban and high…


On “Making It” — Time For Some Tough Love, My Friends

Friday, December 27, 2013

This week I’ve been thinking about the beacons of light that dot my writing journey — writing “the end” for the first time, receiving that first agent request for a full manuscript, announcing KILMOON’s publication date to everyone I know. But you know what? Those fabulous moments are fleeting, and you can’t count on them. I hate to be the Grinchy deb as we end this week filled with holiday festivities and…


The Debutante Ball Welcomes Lena Roy! Contest!

The Debutante Ball is delighted to welcome Léna Roy for a turn around the floor.  This week, Léna joins the Debs in talking about balance. Léna Roy was raised in NYC, in the cloistered environs of a theological seminary, with extracurricular education provided by Manhattan’s club scene. When not writing, she’s worked as a bartender, an actor, and with at-risk adolescents in Utah, California and NYC. She now lives with…

Saturday, December 11, 2010