My grandma Betty died when I was eleven, but the truths she taught me are timeless:
It doesn’t matter what people look like. Period.
Staying silent is not enough. If a person is cruel and you say nothing, you’re no better than them.
Education begets choice. Take every opportunity to learn.
If God has a problem with how some people live, he can take it up with them directly. Be the best version of yourself and let others do the same.
Things don’t matter. People matter. Health matters. Materials come and go.
You control your attitude. Great things will happen; bad things will happen. Have a sense of humor. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
There’s no harm in asking a question, and there’s no point sitting around curious. Go to people you trust for answers.
Smile all the time, at everyone, without exception. When you’re happy it will be contagious, and when you’re angry it will drive the person you’re mad at bonkers.
Sit and enjoy the sunset. Preferably with people you love.
The only time it’s okay to be rude is if someone gives you the willies. No need to explain or apologize, just get away.
Show up for people and they will show up for you.
Play. Really play. Let go of your worries and have some fun.
Sometimes dark humor is the only humor available. Don’t be too sensitive.
Be generous with compliments, time, and money. It all comes back around eventually, but that’s not why you should do it.
Go Grandma Betty!
Extra points for rudeness advice. So great for a woman of her generation to encourage kids to trust their gut if someone seems creepy. Ahead of her time!
I remember her advice often and smile. ❤️
This is beautiful, Abby. Thank you for sharing Grandma Betty’s wisdom with the world! I often think of Grandma freely inviting us (or simply allowing us, with a smile on her face), to play dress up with her jewelry and clothes. I strive to emulate her positive attitude and ability to never sweat the small stuff. She embodied grace in every sense of the word.